How To Generate Personnel Power
Everyone Is Important
When in Doubt, Communicate!
You Are Either at Cause or at Effect

How To Generate Personnel Power
Why do you produce twice as much just before a vacation? You make a list of tasks and get them done in record time.

Why do some people seem so lucky? Everything they do seems to magically turn out well.

What makes you perform at your peak? When are you at your best?

Here’s a power tip you won’t learn from any of the motivational “experts.”

"Happiness is power and power is being able to do what one is doing when one is doing it." — L. Ron Hubbard

When you drive a car while thinking about other things, your reaction time is slower. You are less alert. You fail to see potential problems. According to police, inattention is the primary cause of auto accidents.

Daydreams and distractions ruin your job performance. You go on automatic and make mistakes. Because you are not giving your best, you produce less.

The ability to devote 100% of your attention to a task is difficult at first. Yet when you start to live your life in the immediate present, in this exact moment of time, with little or no attention on the past or future, you feel more alive.

Concentrate on the period at the end of this sentence and nothing else.

Can you do it for five seconds? Fifteen? Can you do it with absolutely no other thoughts? Imagine being able to focus all of your attention on everything you do as you do it. This is power!

Staying in present time unleashes extra amounts of natural ability. For example, just before you leave on a vacation, you zero in on specific accomplishments and quickly get them done. When you only daydream about a vacation, you slow down and become less effective.

You handle conversations much better if you stay in the present. People feel you truly understand them when you are doing nothing but listening with no other thought. When you are fully in the present, you think better, react faster and make better decisions.

The stronger your focus, the greater your power.

FIVE EXERCISES ===================

Practice doing what you are doing when you are doing it in all your activities.

1. Do a simple task at your desk such as clear off some paper. Do this right now. Do absolutely nothing else when doing it. Practice this until your attention is more in the present than ever before.

2. Give the next person you talk to 100% of your attention. Really focus on what they have to say. Think of nothing outside of the conversation. Notice the person’s reaction.

3. The next time you drive your car, do what you are doing when you are doing it. Don’t listen to the radio, talk on your cell phone, eat a snack, think about work or do anything besides drive. Extend your focus all around your car. Notice the difference.

4. Next time you kiss or hug someone, think of nothing else besides giving the kiss or hug. Really do what you are doing and give the person 100% affection. Try this with your spouse or family member to see a great reaction.

5. At your job, spend a complete hour doing absolutely nothing but work. Do exactly what you are doing when you are doing it. Ignore other thoughts, other acts and other tasks. Take no breaks. Do nothing but work. Zero in on the job at hand and see how much you can accomplish.

Whenever you want to feel happier or more powerful, do what you are doing when you are doing it. Your time at work will be more productive. Your love life will be more satisfying. Your driving will be safer.

And if concentrate on doing nothing but having fun during your free time, you will have the time of your life!
Everyone Is Important
People like and appreciate you when you make them feel important. People you work with, such as customers or clients, are more cooperative when they believe you have a high opinion of them. Co-workers give you more support when you make them feel important.

Certain people are very sensitive about their importance. They have a self-importance problem and are upset or angered if you treat them with less importance than they feel they deserve. In many cases, the less money, skill or power people have, the greater their need to feel important.

Giving or granting importance to others is a skill you can use to boost goodwill and cooperation. If you can easily make people feel important, they trust you, believe you and like you.

How to Make Others Feel Important =================================

First, realize the amount of importance in this universe is unlimited. In other words, no matter how much importance you give to others, you do not lose any of your own. There is no benefit from making others feel less important than you, but lots to gain by making them equally important to you.

"Asserting one's own importance is about as acceptable as a dead cat at a wedding." ? L. Ron Hubbard

Second, notice everyone. Pay attention to them.

"Ignore people at your peril." ? L. Ron Hubbard

Never assume anyone is unimportant.

For example, salespeople rarely get past receptionists when they treat receptionists like they do not exist. Similarly, if a receptionist ignores someone because he looks like a salesman, she may later discover she is in trouble for treating a VIP poorly.

Contrary to what you may have learned in high school, if you ignore people, they do not admire you. You make a poor impression on those you regard as less important than you. Instead of making the person respect or like you, they despise and hate you. Arrogance is not the same as expertise.

Insincere flattery and baseless praise do not work either. Most people are not that gullible and they regard flatterers as liars.

Recommendations ================

1. Boost your own opinion of yourself. It is hard to like people if you dislike yourself. Do whatever it takes to raise your self confidence.

If you do not like something about yourself, change it or stop criticizing yourself about it. For example, maybe you say "every time I look at my messy desk, I realize I’m a lousy manager." If so, stay late and clean it up.

Maybe you say, "I’m terrified of hurting people; I hate that I’m terrified; I hate that I hate being terrified." In this case, exercise some mental control and change your idea. In other words, knock it off.

2. Convey a high opinion of others in your speech, body language and intentions. Answer every telephone call as if your mother or the governor is calling.

Give people your full attention and really listen to them. Anticipate their needs. Use your best manners. Treat each person you see as an important person even if the person is stupid, has a sour attitude or works for the IRS.

"People have value and are important. Big or small they are important." ? L. Ron Hubbard

With practice, you can even make people feel wonderful by granting them importance with just a glance. Such a skill gives you boundless respect, cooperation and friendship.

Click here to read the fascinating article, "Finding the Road to Self Respect" with more quotes from L. Ron Hubbard.

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When in Doubt, Communicate!
You may remember being told as a child, "Keep quiet!" "Children should be seen, not heard," and "You talk too much." You were a "good" kid if you kept quiet. However, being quiet when you are little causes big problems later in life.

As an adult, you may have been punished for communicating. For example, if you admit you committed a crime and are sorry about it, no one cares. You still go to jail. If you honestly tell your spouse you are thinking about an affair, your marriage suffers if your spouse is not very understanding. If you tell someone you feel a little crazy, who knows what might happen. So you learn to keep your mouth shut.

However, businesses fail when managers do not talk to employees or employees do not talk to customers. Everyone mistakenly believes telepathy is working. "I thought you knew I was unhappy with your performance." "You should have known I was overworked."

Marriages are ruined by poor communication. Rather than openly discuss sex, money, body problems or whatever, couples hint about their concerns or simply say nothing. But without support and understanding from your primary teammate, you do not go as far. In fact, a bad marriage can ruin everything in your life. Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give and receive communication from their spouse on any subject.

Life is miserable if you have no one to openly communicate with. Friendships are based on communication. The lack of friends or a spouse to communicate with often leads to mental problems.

So the first communication skill you need is to get out there and talk.

Unfortunately, on some topics, you’ve learned to watch what you say, to keep it under your hat, to zip it up.

"So that is the basic lesson that anybody learns in this universe. They learn to keep their mouth shut, and it’s the wrong lesson. When in doubt, talk. When in doubt, communicate." — L. Ron Hubbard

Whenever you have doubts about something, COMMUNICATE! Talk, talk, talk until the problem resolves. When you feel stress, disagreement or resistance between you and someone near you, the wrong thing to do is ignore the problem. Instead, start communicating.

When you know you should say something, say it! For example, an employee knows another employee is embezzling money and so says something to the employee and/or boss. A doctor knows he must talk to a about the patient’s rude behavior to the office staff. An employer knows she must discuss poor performance issues with some employees.

Take the bull by the horns. Move ahead in life. Spit it out.

If you’re worried about the consequences of saying something, you can ask first. Examples:

"Lisa, I want to say something about your driving to help keep you out of accidents, but I don’t want to upset you. Can I tell you what I think or should I keep my mouth shut?"

"Boss, should I tell you if I think you are giving me bad advice?”

"Mike, our marriage means so much to me I don’t want to say anything that would jeopardize it. But I have done something wrong and I’m sorry I did it. I think it would be good for our relationship if I told you. Don’t you think it’s best if we are 100% honest with each other?"

"Can you listen to something unfortunate I have to say and remain calm? Are you ready?"

In the long run, you are always better off by communicating. Take responsibility and talk. Staying silent solves nothing.
You Are Either at Cause or at Effect
When your spouse does something wrong, how do you react?

Some spouses like to blame. “You really embarrassed me when you told that stupid joke. You make me want to stay at home.”

Other spouses prefer to criticize. “You’re so fat it makes me sick.”

Getting even is also a favorite response. “Well, because you were flirting with Chris, I decided to flirt with Pat.”

By blaming, criticizing or getting even with your spouse, you are trying to be AT CAUSE by putting your spouse AT EFFECT. Unfortunately, putting your spouse AT EFFECT is harmful to your relationship. Just because your parents reacted badly toward each other is no reason you need to continue the tradition.

CAUSE AND EFFECT =================

When it comes to situations and relationships, you are either at a cause point or an effect point. When you paint a wall, you are at cause over the paint and the color of the wall. When you spill paint all over your clothes, you are at the effect of that paint.

There are two types of relationships:

1. CAUSE-EFFECT is the most common type of relationship. As in the examples above, you take command of the relationship and put someone else at the effect of you or the problem.

For example, husband John says, “Mary, you ran over the neighbor’s gate. How could you be so stupid?”

John might feel at cause over the gate problem, but Mary will feel effect.

2. In a CAUSE-CAUSE relationship, you assume a cause point yourself AND you allow or encourage others to assume the cause point as well. This idea comes from L. Ron Hubbard who writes:

If Mary burns the toast, John accepts responsibility for this action. This does not mean that he assumes all the responsibility and leaves none for Mary. It means that he assumes all the responsibility and that Mary assumes all the responsibility, too. They both assume all the responsibility. Under such an arrangement, no one can be blamed. All their attention goes into doing better with the toast, and none of it is wasted in blame.

Mary runs the family automobile into the neighbor’s gate. The neighbor rushes over in a huff and encounters John in the front yard. The neighbor says, `You just ruined my gate!’ John goes with the neighbor to look at the gate and at the car. Sure enough, there is blue paint on the gate and white paint on the car. The evidence is conclusive. John agrees with the neighbor that the gate has been damaged by John’s car and he asks the neighbor to have it repaired and send him the bill. The neighbor says that the damage is not very great and so he will repair it himself. John lends him the tools and helps him to repair the gate. John insists on buying a can of white paint, and the neighbor says he will enjoy painting the gate on Sunday. He apologizes for being so excited at first. They shake hands.

John goes into the house, and Mary says, `Dear, I hit the Jones’s gate with the car.’ John says, `Yes, I know. We’ve already repaired it.” Mary says, `I’m sorry. I was thinking about the bathroom curtains.’ John says, `That’s all right. What about the bathroom curtains?’ Mary says, I want to dye them blue.’ John says, `That’s a good idea.’

If nobody is to blame for the damage to the gate, a constructive subject like dyeing the curtains will immediately attract John’s and Mary’s attention, since it represents future action.” —L. Ron Hubbard

Cause-cause relations are teamwork at its very best. You and your spouse accept responsibility for all of the actions of each other. You spread an umbrella of responsibility.

Imagine no arguments or upsets with your spouse. Imagine never trading insults or hurtful comments.

Making a cause-cause relationship with your spouse is the road to a happy marriage.

Give it a try!
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