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| 21 Steps to Happiness Are You A professional How to Handle Difficult People How To Kill The Green Eyed Monster How to Boost Your Personal Power and Command of Life |
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21 Steps to Happiness
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| The happier you are, the more successful you are. When you are happy, you are better focused, enjoy more endurance and make better decisions. People like to work with you when you are cheerful. You get more done in less time. You have an exciting opportunity this week to read one of the best guidelines ever written on happiness. We have used quotes from L. Ron Hubbard's booklet, "The Way to Happiness" in several TipsForSuccess articles. We also offer this 66-page booklet for $4.75 plus shipping on our website at www.tipsforsuccess.org/way-to-happiness.htm. Now, for the first time ever, you can get this booklet at no charge. This is an opportunity for you to read all 21 chapters without cost or obligation. You can also print the booklet or email it to others. "The Way to Happiness" topics range from honesty to hard work, drugs to the environment. It includes guidelines for sexual relations, caring for children and dealing with parents. You learn how to handle dishonest people, leaders who abuse their power and people who want you to fail. "The Way to Happiness" is easy to read and understand. It outlines simple, yet powerful rules for living that you can use to make intelligent, correct decisions in life. The twenty-one topics give you clear, simple advice you can use immediately. Over 60 million copies of this popular booklet are in circulation in print form. It has been translated into 50 languages. How to Get Your Free Copy of "The Way to Happiness" CLICK HERE and select the language you prefer. The English version is in "Flash" format as well as "Adobe PDF" format. To save a copy of the booklet on your computer, get the Adobe PDF version. If you have any problems or questions with the link, the file download or that website, go to www.thepathwaytohappiness.com. To read the Adobe PDF (Portable Document Format) version, you need the Adobe Reader program. You can download and install a free copy of the Adobe Reader program by clicking here. Recommendations 1. Read "The Way to Happiness" from start to finish. 2. Go through the booklet again and note which points you should work on. 3. Write a plan of how you will use those points of the booklet during the next week. 4. Follow your plan during the week. You will notice you feel a little happier each day. 5. Next weekend, repeat steps 2, 3 and 4 above. You will discover statements in the booklet that you did not notice before. 6. Continue each week until you are successfully using all 21 chapters of the booklet on a regular basis. 7. Recommend "The Way to Happiness" to others. You will gradually and steadily feel happier which leads to greater success for you. Download it today! |
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Are You A professional
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How you look, talk, write, act and work determines whether you are a professional or an amateur. Society does not emphasize the importance of professionalism, so people tend to believe that amateur work is normal. Many businesses accept less-than-perfect results.
Schools let you graduate with a "C" or "D" average. You can miss 15% of the driving-test answers and still get a driver license. "Just getting by" is an attitude many people accept. But it is the attitude of losers. ================================================= "Don't ever do anything as though you were an amateur. "Anything you do, do it as a Professional to Professional standards. "If you have the idea about anything you do that you just dabble in it, you will wind up with a dabble life. There'll be no satisfaction in it because there will be no real production you can be proud of. "Develop the frame of mind that whatever you do, you are doing it as a professional and move up to professional standards in it. "Never let it be said of you that you lived an amateur life. "Professionals see situations and they handle what they see. They are not amateur dabblers. "So learn this as a first lesson about life. The only successful beings in any field, including living itself, are those who have a professional viewpoint and make themselves and ARE professionals" —L. Ron Hubbard ================================================= A professional learns every aspect of the job. An amateur skips the learning process whenever possible. A professional carefully discovers what is needed and wanted. An amateur assumes what others need and want. A professional looks, speaks and dresses like a professional. An amateur is sloppy in appearance and speech. A professional keeps his or her work area clean and orderly. An amateur has a messy, confused or dirty work area. A professional is focused and clear-headed. An amateur is confused and distracted. A professional does not let mistakes slide by. An amateur ignores or hides mistakes. A professional jumps into difficult assignments. An amateur tries to get out of difficult work. A professional completes projects as soon as possible. An amateur is surrounded by unfinished work. A professional remains level-headed and optimistic. An amateur gets upset and assumes the worst. A professional handles money and accounts very carefully. An amateur is sloppy with money or accounts. A professional faces up to other people’s upsets and problems. An amateur avoids others’ problems. A professional uses higher emotional tones: Enthusiasm, cheerfulness, interest, contentment. An amateur uses lower emotional tones: anger, hostility, resentment, fear, victim. A professional is focused and purposeful. An amateur is scattered and confused. A professional persists until the objective is achieved. An amateur gives up. A professional produces more than expected. An amateur produces just enough to get by. A professional produces a high-quality product or service. An amateur produces medium-to-low quality products or services. A professional earns high pay. An amateur earns low pay and feels it’s unfair. A professional has a promising future. An amateur has an uncertain future. The first step to making yourself a professional is to decide you ARE a professional. Are you a professional? |
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How to Handle Difficult People
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| A bully at your work is difficult for you to face. He is demanding you do part of his job without pay or credit. How do you handle it? Your neighbors are constantly fighting. They wake you up in the middle of the night with their screams and curses. What do you say to them? Your father is unhappy about your career choice. He constantly criticizes your work and points out what he thinks you should. How do you deal with him? Difficult situations are part of everyone’s life. Employers and employees can’t get along. Partners clash over money. Spouses cannot resolve disagreements. If you ignore these situations, they always get worse. Employees get fired, partnerships and marriages break up, everyone is miserable. Waiting and worrying, the most common "solution," also allows the problem to get worse while giving you stress and shortening your life span. If you attack the person, at least you are trying to fix the problem. But attacks, rage or irrational anger gives you a bad name, makes people afraid of you and reduces honest communication. Disconnecting from the problem or from the person is not always wise or practical. Losing employees, supporters and friends because you needlessly disassociate from them may reduce your stress, but you might also become lonely and poor. The best solution is to confront and handle people. ------------------------------------------------- The ability to stand up to and confront and handle whatever comes the way of the organization depends utterly on the ability of the individuals of the organization to stand up to, confront and handle what comes the individual's way." — L. Ron Hubbard ------------------------------------------------- When you face and resolve the problem yourself, you feel wonderful. You are in control of your life. You not only conquer the opposition, you conquer your fear. Few accomplishments are more satisfying than confronting someone who is difficult to face and handling the conflict. How to Confront and Handle Someone ================================== By getting organized and working out a plan of action, confronting and handling people becomes much easier. The key is your preparation. ------------------------------------------------- THE SUCCESS OF ANY EVENT IS DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL TO THE TIMELY PREPARATION.” — L. Ron Hubbard ------------------------------------------------- Follow these seven steps to prepare yourself for dealing with the difficult people in your life. 1. Make the decision to face up to the person directly and by yourself. 2. Write down the exact problem you need to handle and your goal for the confrontation. Examples of problems to be confronted that you might write down: Joe is refusing to pay me despite our agreement.” hris is hurting office morale and causing me stress with her continual complaining.” ob is supposedly telling people that my work is inferior and I am dishonest.” Once you specifically name or identify the problem, write down a goal for the meeting. “By the end of the meeting, I want . . . .” Examples of goals or objectives you might want as a result of a confrontation: Joe pays me in full.” hris stops complaining or leaves.” Learn the truth about Bob’s comments and if true, get him to stop it.” In some cases, your objective may also state: “Figure out if I want this person as a partner/employee/boss/friend.” 3. Write down a Plan or List of Points You Need to Make to Support Your Goal: Facts, Reasons and explanations you may need the other person to understand. List the points in order of priority or importance. For example, to get Joe to understand why he must pay you, you might make these points: A. Joe requested the service. B. Joe signed an agreement to pay for the service. C. We provided the service as promised. D. Joe was happy with the service. E. Etc. 4. Write down objections, reactions or disagreements the other person may have. Include everything you are afraid might happen during the meeting. Putting specific concerns and fears in writing reduces their impact on you. For each objection, reaction or disagreement you expect will happen, write a solution of how you will deal with each. 5. Organize your notes and gather supportive documents. 6. Arrange the meeting where you will not be disturbed, preferably in a space you control. 7. Start the meeting. Look the person directly in the eye. Explain the specific problem you want to resolve as you noted in Step 2. Go over your first point on the list from Step 3. Listen carefully to the other person and make certain they feel understood. Hold a position on your points. Use your solutions to their reactions as you worked out in Step 4. Continue describing your points and listening to the person's side. Do not give up. Communicate and persist for as long as it takes to reach your goal. The more frequently you confront and handle difficult people, the easier it becomes. The amount of time it takes to prepare for a confrontation decreases. You become strong and tough. When you confront and handle everyone around you, people respect you for your courage, your honesty and your control. Your associates, employees or coworkers follow your example and become more productive. Your enemies either become harmless or become friends. Taking positive organized action, despite fear, is the kind of courage all successful people must have to succeed. |
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How to Kill the Green-eyed Monster
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| Nothing can ruin a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. Jealousy creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate, fear. No one thinks clearly when jealous. Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even repulsive. No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous. So what causes jealousy? ================================================= Jealousy is the largest factor in breaking up marriages. Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person and the jealousy may or may not have foundation. This person is afraid of hidden communication lines and will do anything to try to uncover them.” — L. Ron Hubbard ================================================= When you are jealous, a line of communication is going on with your spouse or lover that is hidden from you. The mystery causes the pain. If you witnessed your spouse’s communication line, so it was not hidden from you, you would not feel jealous. Hidden communication lines or mysteries make you think of questions. “Will she find someone she likes better than me?” “Is he having an affair?” “Is she going to leave me?” “Does he think I’m unattractive?” When you are jealous, the mystery makes you assume the worst. “Maybe he’ll fall in love with his cute receptionist and leave me.” “She’s going to lunch with her old boyfriend because she’s still attracted to him.” “He’ll come home and tell me he wants a divorce.” So how do you handle your feelings of jealousy? How do you deal with a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend who is jealous? ================================================= Communication is the root of marital success from which a strong union can grow, and non-communication is the rock on which the ship will bash out her keel*.” — L. Ron Hubbard ================================================= If you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions. Communicate your feelings so you can work out solutions. Bob says to his wife, “I don’t want to feel this jealously. I want to get rid of it by asking you a question, okay? Good. So are you attracted to Joe?” His wife says, “Heavens no! Joe just wanted some help with his son. I love YOU like crazy!” Bang! The hidden communication is revealed. The mystery is resolved. Bob feels much better. If Bob doesn’t communicate, his wife’s communication with Joe make Bob jealous, afraid and angry. Their marriage suffers. If your mate is jealous, make sure you have no hidden lines of communication. “Would you like to read this letter from Jill?” “Can you meet with Joe to help with his son?” Use communication to resolve the problem. For example, you notice Marcia is acting upset and not talking. You ask yourself, “What communication line might be hidden from Marcia?” You realize she’s been acting annoyed ever since you started working for an attractive female boss. Marcia, have I told you about my new boss?” Marcia jumps up and now wants to talk. You communicate the facts and remove the mystery. Marcia is cheerful and wants to go to a movie. As well as using communication to resolve mysteries, communicate your feelings for your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. Tell him or her how you feel. Express your love. Show your affection. Resolve the mysteries of the past. Discuss your feelings in the present. Make plans for the future. Because of communication, your relationship will be a big success. L. Ron Hubbard writes, “Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person. . . .” Mr. Hubbard discovered the causes of insecurity which we’ll cover in a future email message. * keel: The main structural part of a ship that goes from bow to stern (front to back). |
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| You are about to read about one of the most effective self-improvement tools ever discovered. This one technique can do more for your mental strength, your job performance and your overall competence than dozens of self-help books or motivational seminars. This simple formula eliminates self criticism, fear and stress. It is applicable to any situation and works every time. You can use it repeatedly without limitation. L. Ron Hubbard discovered the KRC Triangle in 1972. ================================================ THE K-R-C TRIANGLE” The points are K for KNOWLEDGE, R for RESPONSIBILITY and C for CONTROL.” It is difficult to be responsible for something or control something unless you have KNOWLEDGE of it.” It is folly to try to control something or even know something without RESPONSIBILITY.” It is hard to fully know something or be responsible for something over which you have no CONTROL, otherwise the result can be an overwhelm.” Little by little one can make anything go right by INCREASING KNOWLEDGE . . . ,” INCREASING RESPONSIBILITY . . . ,” INCREASING CONTROL . . . .” If one sorts out any situation one finds oneself in on this basis, he will generally succeed.” y inching up each corner of the KRC triangle bit by bit, ignoring the losses and making the wins firm, a being at length discovers his power and command of life.” — L. Ron Hubbard ================================================ KRC TRIANGLE APPLICATION RECOMMENDATIONS ------------------------------------------------ Select a problem and write it down or type it into your computer. Then write or type the answers for each of these five steps. 1. Raise the Knowledge corner. How can you increase your knowledge about the problem? What do you need to learn about it? What should you study to better understand the problem? 2. Raise the Responsibility corner. How can you take more ownership for the problem? What parts of the problem are you responsible for? Can you accept responsibility for the parts you did not cause? 3. Raise the Control corner. What part of the problem can you control? How could you take a little more control for the other parts? 4. Ignore the losses. If you focus on losses or failures, they get bigger and more overwhelming. You then pull in even more losses. So find ways to ignore these losses. If ignoring losses is difficult, try writing them down on a sheet of paper and then destroy the paper. Shift your attention. Stop talking or thinking about them. Avoid people who bring them up. Move on. If you catch yourself dwelling on losses, knock it off. Put your attention elsewhere. Stop talking about losses. And learn to ignore the failures of others as well. 5. Make the wins firm. What can you do to make your successes firm? How can you solidify them? Maybe you can write them down or put them on a wall. Keep a record of your wins. Talk about them to everyone you can. Celebrate them. Also, make a habit of finding and focusing on the wins of others. The more attention you put on success, the more success you get. Some of your answers to these questions are easy, enjoyable steps. Do those right now! You will see a sudden improvement in the problem. Then do the tougher steps you wrote. Once you start on them you will find they are not so tough after all. If following these five steps does not completely solve the problem, repeat the steps until the problem is gone forever. As well as solving problems for you, these steps will start to bring out the best in you. You will discover a new sense of command over life that you have always had, but never used. Use the KRC Triangle to release the real powerhouse you know that you are. |
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