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| Goals and Happiness Orderly Progress = Power Your Personal Image Personal Glory Is a Lousy Goal Secret of Efficiency |
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Goals and Happiness
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| What makes you happier than anything else you do? Where does real contentment come from? If you understand and apply the following definition of happiness, you also open the door to unlimited success for yourself, your family and your group. Happiness could be defined as the emotion of progress toward desirable goals. There is an instant of contemplation of the last goal in which one is content. But contentment becomes boredom immediately that new goals do not come to view. There is no more unhappy thing than a man who has accomplished all his ends in life.” — L. Ron Hubbard Examine how three facts, from this definition of happiness, make happiness come and go in your life. 1. “There is an instant of contemplation of the last goal in which one is content.” Think of goals you have reached in the past. Remember how you felt on your wedding day or when you graduated from school or a training course? In each case, you achieved a goal! Remember those times when you were content with life? Maybe when you started a business or landed a great job? When you paid off your debts? At every point in your life when you felt content or happy, you can probably find you were either making progress toward a goal or had reached a goal 2. “But contentment becomes boredom immediately that new goals do not come to view.” Without a new goal, you get bored. Boredom leads to stress and misery. For example, planning a vacation is exciting. But toward the end of a vacation many people are bored to tears as they no longer have a goal. Arguments during honeymoons are common if the newlyweds do not set goals for their marriage. Planning your retirement and the first day of retirement is a thrill. But the joy of freedom quickly turns to boredom and early death if you do not work on new goals. There is no more unhappy thing than a man who has accomplished all his ends in life.” Think of a time you were very bored. Had you completed a major goal without starting a new one? Look at other times you were bored. Examine your goals, or lack of goals, at those times. 3. “Happiness could be defined as the emotion of progress toward desirable goals.” We can use this definition to understand unhappiness as well. When were you last unhappy? In each case, you probably 1) had no goal, 2) were trying to reach an undesirable goal, or 3) you were making no progress toward a goal. Using the definition of happiness makes happiness easy to achieve. Simply chose desirable goals and make progress toward them! The following exercises will help you put this definition of happiness to use. Five Goal-setting Recommendations Use these steps as a guide to make 2003 your happiest, most productive year ever! 1. List goals you have not yet reached. Small goals, large goals, old goals, failed goals and current goals. Make a very complete list. 2. Circle those goals that interest you the most. Drop out the goals that do not excite you as you can’t reach a goal unless it interests you. |
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Orderly Progress = Power
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| Many of those who wish to succeed find relief and an improved attitude from this quote: THE TOTALITY OF POWER IS ORDERLY PROGRESS.” — L. Ron Hubbard Discouragement and frustration from not making your goals quickly enough are resolved through orderly progress. Do you ever get frustrated because your life is not the way you want it? Perhaps you are trying to skip steps necessary to reaching your goals. Instead of demanding PERFECTION TODAY!, focus on orderly progress and your odds of success are much higher. Do you ever feel overwhelmed? If so, orderly progress becomes even more important. Confronting huge amounts of work is not overwhelming when you see yourself making orderly progress, even in small amounts, toward your goals. Do you ever feel like you are losing ground or failing? If you map out your actual goal and move one inch closer on a regular basis, you have new power. Do you ever feel like you are treading water and going nowhere? It is time for you to focus on some orderly progress. How do you eat an elephant? How do you move a mountain? How to you reach huge goals? One mouthful, one rock and one step at a time. Examples: giving a positive impression to one more person; learning one more new skill; lessening one bad habit, investing a few more dollars in savings. Daily progress in a specific direction creates long-term power when the progress is constant and orderly. If you have been dissatisfied with your progress in life, or if you feel discouraged, overwhelmed or frustrated, make a list of orderly steps you can take every day and every week. Calm, direct, orderly steps. Once you have your strategy worked out there is no need to worry about the past or the future—just concentrate on the present; on the steps of this plan. By putting order into your progress, nothing and nobody can stop you. A mountain creek is more powerful than a granite boulder when the creek slowly and surely wears the boulder down. Orderly progress toward your goals starts with small, positive steps. You can generate new power from this week forward. Deciding to have orderly progress is the first step. |
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| Your Personal Image |
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| A bad personal impression gives a message that is not always accurate. For example, bad breath gives the impression that you are dirty. Poor eye contact gives an impression that you are disinterested. Crooked teeth gives the impression you are stupid. The problem is often found in education. Modern schools are so backward they don’t teach personal appearance, manners, cleanliness.” “Cleanliness and neatness are the primary building blocks to respect in most societies.” — L. Ron Hubbard To succeed, you need respect. Personal impressions are so important in this society that a bad personal impression can hurt your chances of success. People dislike being around you. You make them uncomfortable. They distrust you somehow. A good personal impression makes your job easier. It opens the door to good relationships. A good personal image helps make people listen to you, believe you, like you. 25 Ways to Improve Your Image 1. Have no smells. Use an effective unscented deodorant. Avoid perfume and cologne. 2. Wear clean clothing with no stains. Ensure the clothing fits well and looks professional. 3. Females should avoid heavy cosmetics, large jewelry or sexy clothing. 4. Ensure your fingernails are clean, smooth and well-shaped. 5. Pluck hair that sticks out of your ears or nose, between eyebrows, out of moles or other odd places. 6. Give a healthy image: no red eyes, sniffles or coughing. 7. Ensure you have clean-smelling breath, non-greasy hair 8. Get as much cosmetic dentistry as you need to have clean, attractive teeth. 9. Wear nothing extraordinary: psychidelic ties, long fingernails, nose jewelry, tattoos, hats, big rings. 10. Stand when first meeting someone, no matter who they are. 11. Walk with good posture; stand tall, lift your chin. 12. Sit straight. 13. Make good eye contact. 14. Smile at everyone. 15. Shake hands with or pat a shoulder of everyone you meet. 16. Use dry, warm hands for handshaking. 17. Allow a comfortable amount of space between you and others. 18. Laugh easily; it makes people relax and makes your face glow. 19. Watch your humor. Avoid jokes about race, disability, sex and so on. Tell jokes about yourself or pass on humorous stories that anyone would enjoy. 20. Appear relaxed, yet energized. 21. Use good manners. Say “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me” to everyone, regardless of who you think they are. 22. Use good language. Bad/good examples: “c’mere/come here,” “ain’t/isn’t,” “yeah/yes,” “nah/no.” 23. Acknowledge everyone; ignore no one. 24. Say “goodbye” to everyone as they leave. 25. Most important of all, show your pride. Pride is the primary reason for good appearance.” — L. Ron Hubbard |
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| Personal Glory Is a Lousy Goal |
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| “Never need praise, approval or sympathy.” -- From "The Code of Honor" by L. Ron Hubbard If you want to succeed, a tough, but important lesson you must learn is that seeking personal importance interferes with your success. If your purpose is to be famous, admired or liked, your decisions will be wrong. People will not respect you. You lose money. If admiration from others is a big source of your happiness, you become addicted to finding more and more admiration. You lose sight of goals that really matter in life. Like any addiction, needing admiration can dominate your life. For example, you buy a car or house based on other people's likes instead of your own. You marry the wrong person because you think the marriage makes you look good. You choose a career because it makes you popular, not because you love the work. An Arabian proverb sums up fame in six words: “A dog barks; the caravan passes.” You might make lots of noise and get some attention, but life moves on. Why waste time and effort for a few dog barks? It feels good to be admired. It feels satisfying to be liked. But to seek personal fame as a goal can ruin your career, your business, your family, your life. 10 Reasons Why Seeking Admiration Is a Bad Idea 1. You depend on others for your happiness or feeling of self-worth. 2. You prevent implementation of good ideas if they are not YOUR ideas. For example, you might ignore brilliant ideas because the ideas come from your spouse or employee or coworker. 3. To maintain personal importance, you refuse to delegate decision-making. Because everyone must then wait for your blessing before they act, you get stressed to pieces. 4. People learn they can control you by praising you or criticizing you. 5. You avoid important duties because they are unpopular. For example, a boss might not correct employees as it is unpopular. 6. Without a regular dose of validation, self-criticism takes over. 7. You hit a production ceiling as you will not share the stage. You worry that a coworker or partner might steal some of your applause. 8. Working for admiration distracts you from working on more valuable objectives. 9. To make the herd like you, you follow the herd and never break into personal success beyond the herd’s success. 10. Achieving personal glory does not mean you can now pay your bills. Recommendations Make your decisions based on what is right for your goals, your family, your group. Choose goals that have nothing to do with personal glory or fame. Learn to admire yourself while avoiding a need for admiration from others. Do what is right, not what you will be applauded for. Evaluate yourself by your own standards of what you should be, not what others want you to be and you will be a bigger success. Click here to read "The Code of Honor." |
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| Secret of Efficiency |
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| A real reason people feel overworked, overloaded or overwhelmed is not because they have too much work to do, but because they are inefficient. When one person produces twice as much as another, you are looking at a big difference in work habits. You can increase your accomplishments and have more free time if you rid yourself of two bad habits and form one good habit. Two Bad Habits 1. Looking at a piece of work your are supposed to do—a letter, program, interoffice communication, task assignment, request, whatever—and putting it aside to do later. You read it, digest it, think about doing it, consider the problems involved, sigh and put it down. Nothing is accomplished. A total waste of time. 2. Taking a piece of work, deciding you do not want to do it and referring it to someone else, even though it is your job to do. The other person eventually sends it back to you. A total waste of your time and their time. One Good Habit o it Now.” One of the best ways to cut your work in half is not to do it twice.” If you do every piece of work that comes your way WHEN it comes your way and not after a while, if you always take the initiative and take action, not refer it, you never get any traffic back. . .” In short, the way to get rid of traffic is to do it, not to refer it; anything referred has to be read by you again, digested again, and handled again; so never refer traffic, just do it so it's done.” So if you are truly a lover of ease, the sort of person who yawns comfortably and wears holes in heels resting them on desks, if your true ambition is one long bout of spring fever, then you'll do as I suggest and handle everything that comes your way when it comes and not later; and you'll never refer anything to anybody that you yourself can do promptly.” o it when you see it and do it yourself.” — L. Ron Hubbard The best time to get the “do-it-now” habit is (of course) RIGHT NOW! 1. Take a stack of papers or any kind of cluttered mess. 2. Read or examine the first item. 3. Deal with it. A. If the item is just for info or has no current real use, file it, store it or throw it away. B. If you need to take action, do it right now. Persist until the job is completely DONE. C. If you dislike the work involved, it is even more important that you do it right now. . . . take the initiative and take action . . . .” 4. Remember the rewards of the do-it-now habit. If you do your work in half the time, how will you spend the extra time? What new activity could you do that would increase your productivity? What would be fun to do if you had some extra time on your hands? Give it a try! |
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